Ahem,Ahem! my past few weeks have been a total disaster.Too much of Mafia wars and FarmVille is harmful.I have many tasks for the upcoming weeks.Firstly,I have to meet my blogger friends in Mumbai.Have promised few of them that we would meet this weekend.Just waiting for Pri to come and we have to do the planning thing.I’ve also promised my close pal that I would write his story soon. Being a Vela isn’t a big thing but its strange that you are sitting at home and don’t make much of it.Well I am an exception.Aww! Exception reminds me of my Java course and this reminds me of my Tests.Gosh!just look at me,what am I supposed to do now? Any way lets have a serious discussion.Lets talk about best friends.Man is a social animal.Agreed??? Well I agree as I had to speak on this topic at some point of time in my life.He has many friends.He meets many people during his life time.Some of them who induce drastic changes in their life and few of them who were known for their kind deeds.Out of those there is some one with whom we share all our secrets and close things.Yes its not our family members or any peers.It is our best friend.Lets talk about different things about the same.
Last night I was chatting with my very good blogger friend.E2 had asked me to read her blog post. I read and found it amusing(but sad).It was a total tragedy ,a dilemma to be honest.I just felt that it would be embarrassing for her.How on Earth would your best friend fall in love you?. Oops! yes there are many exceptions.But being so close and you carry this tag of being best friends and even then you have these much feelings for someone who understands and treats you as a best friend. Well this isn’t funny. Lets highlight few points in this space.
1.When your best friend falls in love with you?
I am always known as a humour writer who then changed to fiction.This so called solitary fiction writer started writing Romantic stories. These romantic stories later on instigated him to write Love and Relationship posts.This is what the Solitary writer is trying to do.Any way coming to the topic.Do you have any best friends? Silly Solly…I guess everyone must be having one.Before that let us explain what best friend means.My Nokia N70 dictionary defines “Best friends” as the one who is closest to you.Oye! this constitutes only 10% definition of best friend.A best friend is one who is close to you, he/she is the one who understands you,he/she is the person who cares for you. They think of your betterment.They are the one who don’t expect any thing not even a favour for your kind deeds.They support us and provide solace when we were upset and feeling low.In short a best friend is a secret holder.They are the one who have immense trust on you and you have the same opinion of them.In such a case if a best friend falls in love with you ,then there is something which should be taken care of.
After being best friends for so long and one day your best friend proposes you. Well people would love to refrain from such situations.Would there be a scenario when both the friends would love to extend the relationship one step ahead.If there is a yes from both the sides,then its a bliss else its fine .No worries,we are going to talk about such things.
Firstly give some time.Think for a while.Think about the good times you had with the person. Think about those beautiful tours ,outings and picnics you went with your gang especially with your best friends. Reminisce those days when you fought with your bestie like mad and crazy. Well if you call him/her as your best friend then you would think.Don’t lose your temper.I know being best friends we always played prank on each others,we love pulling their legs in front of others and so on.
Secondly communication may prove to be effective.Just walk to him/her and tell what you feel for him.Let him/her know whats running through your mind.Let them think too.If nothing works then let them know about your goals in life, career prospectives etc.Its all in your hand.But do take care that your friend is not hurt.This is a very delicate and sensitive topic.But let me tell you that there is a big difference between best friends and relationship partners.Falling in love with some one is too easy ,but falling for your best friend is something strange.Just tell that you
don’t love him/her or you do love him/her.It happens but Solitary writer never came through such things before. Your best friend see’s you as some one special and yes you may not want to lose them at any circumstances. This loss would prove to be a big one.Just try to be the same best friend whatever be the case for best friends know each other very well.All’s well that ends well.
2.When your Best friend falls in love with your girlfriend/boyfriend?
May sound funny ,but its not funny.Trust me it happens quite often.Solitary writer
once had a crush on his best friends girl friend when he was in class 11.But then he was too young, so one can’t blame Solly for the kid within him.Instead you should blame the hormones if you are planning to blame one. .Well what happens when your best friend falls in love with your gf/bf? .Nightmare!! no no its not a nightmare.But I would like to say the same thing.Go talk to your best friend.Explain him/her the importance of “your” gf/bf in your life. If he/she is your best friend then they would surely pay heed to your words.And another advice for best friends. Wait and watch method works well at times.If your best friend breaks off with his girlfriend/boyfriend then its time for you.Not at all gross, but this is my idea.It works at times and that’s why I am telling you.My next story is based on the same.Ahem Ahem!!
3.When your Best friend hurts you?
“Hurt never Smile ever” is not followed by everyone.So as its not
even followed in friendship. At times your best friend may hurt you.They may try to do a Hitler act by annoying you and troubling you by saying words which hurt you.Trust me it is painful when you hurt your best friend.I know it because I have always made my best friend cry.I mean not always but at times.I still remember the day when I fought with my best friend.She was sounding sad and upset.Other day when I spoke to her I learnt that she had cried the whole day for a single issue.I soon apologised and tried to make her happy.But Solitary writer is a big expert in this context of making people cry and sad.When your best friend is upset because of you then go to her/him. Try to be casual,crack few jokes.Hunt for opportunities which would bring a smile in their face. If she is still angry with you then pull their cheeks and say “Arey Bachho jaise ro rahi/raha hai yar tuu” .
Dear friends ,friendship is one of the most priced possesion/gifts in the world.A friend is our alter ego.Its the most pure relationship in the world.They sow the seeds of happiness and you derive more happiness as you reap it. Just be good to friends.Don’t lose your friends even if they love or hurt you.Yeh not to forget …just give them a kick when he/she has an eye on your girl/guy. Kidding!! Any way next posts would be a
Sister Management post for all those naughty bratty brothers who fight with their sisters or vice versa