Story of Sathya

5 Critical Tips for an effective Life!

There are many times I come across people who regret their actions. Controlling your tongue is an important thing and what you speak makes you. You are recognized by the things you say. There may be times when things may go wrong, or maybe your day wasn’t just perfect. Obviously, that would be the worst time of your life, and you would be down and low. Instead of cheering yourself, you would prefer to be alone. You won’t wish to mingle with people around you. You would instantly burst upon someone who irks you or pesters you with some work. This shouldn’t be the case. It takes significant time to win someone’s heart and notice your presence. It takes a few minutes to get your name spoiled, and it takes time to reconstruct the good old reputation. Damage control isn’t always necessary. So I have always been advising people to think before your speak something. Ponder over what went wrong and how to make it right. Then, take out the necessary correcting measures.

I admit that it is difficult to control yourself during bad times. But that is not the theme of life. If every time you get vexed over someone, then I am sure your circle of trust and friendship would be reduced. At one time, you will realize that the circle’s diameter will suddenly diminish into a point, and you will be left all alone. Each indecision brings something unpleasant. You might have a big quarrel with your loved ones. They may be your parents, sibling, or your best friend. You might just not know how much difficult the situation may get. By doing this, you will lose another person in your life. It takes time to build a relationship. Building a relationship is the most challenging situation. I bet many of you felt it difficult to confess your love for some stranger? It may be the person who mesmerized you with their personality. You really find it difficult to open a conversation with them. Relations are like strings. It is delicate at the beginning. As soon as the bond gets more robust, the line turns strong. It is easily broken during the worst times. Everything seems shattered. Here are a few pointers which can be helpful for you.

1. Exercising Control over the tongue

The tongue may appear like a muscular mass of tissues, but it has the power to destroy things and turn them into bliss. These are two opposite things, I would say.

Here is one example of a conversation that I found interesting. It is a chat excerpt from an Indian author’s book.

Boy – You never called me the other day…

Girl – I was busy.

Boy – I realized you were out with the other guy….I ever tried calling you several times.

Girl – I have already told you I was busy with some work.

Boy – You fucking bitch. I know what you were doing with him.

The girl breaks into tears and goes away.

Friends, I would like to advise that Human emotions can do wonders at the time, and sometimes they can just play more than a spoilsport. For example, when you start loving someone, you overthink the person. You think about what they may be doing at that time. This piece may look weird,, but I want to write something true. Do not play with anyone. Control over the tongue is necessary. For an ill-tempered person, one minute is enough to create a storm. But I would love to say that after that one minute of havoc, it is impossible to make a positive impact. An apology will not help as already the damage is done. There is no lull after a storm in this case. Hence exercising control over the tongue is very important.

2. Thinking twice before speaking

This point is very much essential when you are planning for a long-term relationship. The relationship is all about being together and understanding each other. It’s the case where like-minded people with standard thought processes bond together. They may be lovers, couples, or any kind of relationship. If this point is violated, then everything would be a mess. This point, coupled with our first point, can naturally be a good factor that helps maintainthings. Compromising things in life and nature to forget and forgive will always help people in a relationship. Tongue rules us. So I advise you guys to think twice before speaking.

3. Never get into a Verbal argument

The point is self-explanatory. Some things can be mutually sorted out by mere discussions instead of quarrels and unpleasant arguments. However, this will create a negative impact and an impression that can break bongs.

4. Silence

During our worst times, I would prefer to be silent for a while. Isolate yourself for some time. Think what went wrong. Think about the scope of improvement. During this phase, you can easily make out the reasons which made you behave like that. This stage will give you inner strength and help you gain lost confidence.

5. Apology

Sorry is the only word that plays a rescue ranger during trouble. Never think twice. Just shoot the word. It will automatically invoke a good feeling for you. But naturally, not all time sorry can come to your rescue. It is not a passport to all the mistakes you make.

Friends, life is concise, and I guess we should cherish the life that god has gifted us. Avoid sour moments with your loved ones. This is not good for you. This is a random post that I have scribbled. I hope you get something out of it.

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